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A Revolution of MASS proportions…
Is it true?
Is it possible that I’ve become a beacon of inspiration?
Perhaps even for you?
I really didn’t know what to expect when I started “How Does She Do It Mom”.
I knew I had stuff to say and was well aware that some of it was going to offend and cause judgment.
But those who judge are fickle, enjoy drama and don’t feel altogether comfortable looking in the mirror at their own inadequacies so make a career out of ripping on others.
That’s life, to be completely expected and has even been summarized in emails like this one I received:
You tell it like it is and although some might be shocked and insulted by some of your straight forwardness, it just may be the wake-up call they needed to start working on reconnecting with themselves and taking charge of what they truly desire!
But I truly don’t know if I was expecting to receive emails like this:
You are amazing! After reading your blog this morning I started looking at life in another way… Your way
My Way… The C2 Way… The How Does She Do It Mom Way.
And then, I’d get emails like these:
You truly do inspire me… There are not many people I know who do… But you are one that does… Keep up the amazing blogging… I’m hooked!!!
All I have to say is… WOW!!! You go girl! Now, if this doesn’t inspire anyone to go out and do what they have to to get what they want, then nothing will!!
“How Does She Do It Mom” is not a self-engrossed monologue.
It’s not about me giving you advice and hoping that you take it.
It’s a MOVEMENT.
A living and breathing revolution that has you at its center – the apex of its ascension-filled journey.
A pleading and ambitious call to action for Mom’s and Women the world over to live broader and make more of their existence.
A declaration of intent evoking the spirit and sage wisdom that says…
You can do…. ANYTHING YOU WANT!!
A resource, rich in tools to show you exactly how that’s possible.
“How Does She Do It Mom”, isn’t about me…..
….. It’s about you.
And sincerely, I want to know what you plan to do next…
Facebook comments:
Before I started reading your BLOG, I was just another women that would look at myself and feel like I sold my body and time to being a mother.
These past to weeks, I have started looking at things differently…. I make time to go to the gym everyday. If I can’t then I take a walk or run. I make sure to get ME time in and well I feel better already.
My plan is to make sure that I take the time I need EVERYDAY to find my body before kids and well my sense of excitement of my life and not the life of a mother.
Keep on inspiring!! xoxoxox
Thanks for sharing Lorie! I am looking forward to hearing about your journey to finding “yourself” again…keep us posted. PS: keep your eyes open for video on some fitness pointers this week!
Since I had already had my personal “revolution” a few years ago, I think I’ll share some of that as well as my current goal.
I would classify my “pre-self” as affectively dependant, meaning I couldn’t be alone. I had to have a man in my life because I always had. Although I was comfortable, I wasn’t happy although I didn’t know that yet. I was too insecure about myself on my own.
How would I manage? Would I have enough income to pay the bills and everything else on my own? Would I be able to keep my house? Would my children be scarred for life by the emotional turmoil I was subjecting them to? How in the world would I juggle work, school, daycare, homework, household duties, and be able to remain a good mother to my kids? How would my entourage react? Would I lose friends? Would family look down on me? Would I ever be able to find my true love with two kids in my luggage?
And those are only a minor example of all the questions that ran through my head each and everyday. The questions I had no answer to which kept me in the same situation I was. I kept telling myself that when I could answer those questions, I would be home free. Well, the reality is, I never could’ve answered them because I couldn’t control what would happen.
When I realized that, I made the move. I decided that I would end my relationship and just deal with all the consequences as they came. I felt like I was jumping out of a plane with no parachute and my eyes closed, fear and excitement envelopping me at the same time. Best thing I ever did.
Now, three years later, I am still living on my own, in my house, juggling career, school, kids, etc., etc., and I am loving it. I’m not saying it was easy. It was HELL… but I grew so much as a person and really got to know ME. It still isn’t easy but the satisfaction and pride I get by knowing that I am in charge and that I CAN make it on my own is the best reward I could ask for.
Every day, I set myself priorities because I obviously can’t do EVERYTHING a normal familly would. For example, I have to make time for my kids and myself. Well… for me that comes before having a Mr. Clean floor and toothpaste-speckled free bathroom mirror. So what if I leave a few pots and pans to wash tomorrow because the kids want to play a board game or go take a walk? So what if every second night I keep an hour to myself to do my nail polish at the expense of walking on a few crumbs cause I didn’t sweep the floor. They’ll still be there tomorrow. I’m not saying my house is a pig sty… it just looks like two kids live there. Every day I remind myself that some obligations can wait while others, like the time I have with my kids and time to take care of myself cannot be accumulated. Every day I make the decision to live in the here and now and enjoy what’s going on instead of getting upset for meaningless things like housework.
BTW… I own about 200 bottles of nail polish and I really do change it every second or third day. That’s my one indulgence and it’s something that makes me feel sexy. Some call me crazy/obsessed but that’s me. When I walk into the boutique to buy a bottle or when a new collection comes out, I get butterflies in my stomach and my hearbeat speeds up. I also have to share the fact that my “obsession” as some call it, also adds to my quality time with my daughters because I also do their nails and the nails of their friends when they come over. I feel that I’m also teaching them that it’s important to take care of yourself and make yourself look good because it makes you FEEL good.
The next change I’ve been working on is finding the time to exercise regularly. I’m okay with my body but I know there’s room for improvement and since I still like to strut my stuff in a bikini, I need to firm up. I’ll have to rearrange my priorities again for that. I have the equipment to work out at home so that saves me time from travelling to and from a gym. All I need now is to find a way to get up in the morning to take the 45 minutes I need to work out because when my day of obligations ends, it’s 11pm and the energy is completely wiped out of me or that I find time to do it in the evening after the kids are in bed. Since I’m not a morning person… waking up early will be a big challenge! lol! So I’m thinking that I should do a bit of cardio in the am to wake me up and cut back on something else in the evening to crunch in a little strength trainging and a tid bit more cardio. The sacrifice will probably be spending less time bringing work from the office home and doing less housework. Hmmm… decisions, decisions.
So there you have it, I could go on and on but I guess I’ll keep some for future posts!
MJ
Thanks for sharing MJ…as always. Keep your eyes open for a video this week that will serve your new fitness goals very very well
Ooohh! Can’t wait! =)
Carrie, I just have to say how awesome your are as well and the mission you are bringing to the world…to empower women (MOMS) to be freakin’ awesome.
Even though I am a male, I can relate to your posts because 95% of my clients are women and I get to hear their stories of triumph and hardship on a daily basis.
As of late, I’ve used words of wisdom that I’ve read on your blog to inspire my clients in our conversations.
Keep up the worthwhile mission Carrie. It’s well needed.
DO
So touching to know that you are sharing the “message” with your female clients!! The more Moms and women who can be reached through my blog and message the better. Thanks DO!
My biggest change is allowing the house to be a little bit messier. I’m focusing on me, my husband, my kids and my career. So I see more dog hair because I only use the vac once a week. Big deal. Women need to stop feeling judged by how the house looks and get free of that standard. It never bothers men so they tend to get more done. I admit if someone is coming over I make a mad scrabble to straighten but I’ve stopped obsessing about it.
It can be so easy to lose perspective on the important things based on what society deems important isn’t it? Good for you Pat…I am sure hubby and kids are grateful!
Faith has brought us together Carrie. It had been a while since we had contacted each other but when we did WOW I feel like I have met my female match. As you have and many other women in this world I have had my share of ups and downs. After turning 40 – having 2 kids and getting myself back into the groove of things communicating with you again is like the cherry on top of the sundae – I feel complete. I know that when I am down or need someone to pick me up I have your blogs to read and it often puts things into perspective. I always say “we meet certain people for a reason” and you are definately one of the pack. Thank you for your inspiration and your friendship. It means the world to me.
GIRLS ROCK!!!
Linda I could not agree more that people come into our lives for a reason and also at particular times. You gave much inspiration to me many many years ago (even though you may not have realized it at the time) I am happy and honored to be able to return that favor. xox