One Simple Commitment…A Lifetime Of Fullfillment…

“I mean this to be nothing more than a reflection of the kind of person I feel you are and how your presence is quite simply… radiant and alluring.” 

“If I was around you physically, perhaps geographically, it wouldn’t be much of a stumble for me to fall madly in love.   You’re that kind of amazing.”

 ”Carrie, I promise you honesty and complete candor. You know as well as I, that honesty is typically a myth. Most claim to want it, but when it’s offered, truly never wanted to hear it. I give you all of me when I say that you will never, ever have to read into me. I will come with all the honesty and ‘realness’ I have. I won’t ever forget again your strength and ability to hear the truth.”

Three very personal and very real exerts from the litany of messages that Brian and I exchanged in the very early stages of our relationship. All of these from him, sent to me and yes they left me smiling, a little teary eyed and unbelievably warm in my soul.

Our relationship blossomed quickly as you may already know, our story is beautiful and one that I feel blessed to be able to carry with me forever.

It would appear that today’s post is about relationships, wouldn’t it?

However it is not…the message is far broader than one of true love….pay attention…

When I divorced in February of 2008 I made a commitment to myself and to my children, one that was not grounded in hopes that it would pan out but grounded in the reality that I wasn’t caving in no matter what.

I promised myself I would never settle.

On anything.

It hit me hard when I realized that settling on a life partner would leave me unfulfilled forever and that waiting for “perfect for me” was far more worth it, even if it meant potentially being without one at all.

Yes, Brian is a poet and writes me pieces that leave me feeling loved more than any other woman in the world.

Yes, Brian chose to become a parent over-night and has taken on the role seriously, without reservation and loving them wholly.

Yes, Brian and I work side by side all day long and really do love each other’s company so much that we don’t quite enjoy being apart.

Yes, we have goofy inside jokes and we laugh and play every single day.

Yes, we get a high out of our life-crafting ventures and our business building plans.

Yes, he is perfect….perfect for me.

You may not believe that perfect is possible…but the reality is that what is perfect for one person is not perfect for another.

I promised myself I would not settle…I would only become involved when I found someone who was “perfect-for-me”.

Your life deserves to be fulfilled. You deserve to have what is “perfect-for-you”.

What do you have to do to be this fulfilled?

Know yourself?

Know what you want and what your standards are and don’t dare lower them for anyone.

Now I have rambled about my relationship with Brian but if you stop and think about this “settling” can extend far beyond just that…

Settling on a career….

Settling on friendships…

Settling on marriages…

Settling on a body you don’t like…

Settling…settling…settling…

Far too many Moms do this…don’t be one of them.

How Does She Do It Mom – “The Voice Of The Woman You Used To Be….And Are Looking For”

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