Renovate Your “Social Circle” Closet
Everyone has a story and if you listen carefully to those stories I guarantee that from each you can glean a new lesson or something of inspiration.
Last Friday I marked the decision to not compete with the addition of new tattoo, one that I posted about a few weeks ago. Tattooing is a very soulful experience for me.
It can represent anything from the end of a chapter with a new beginning to a massive shift or learning experience in my life.
This one was not unlike the others. And like all others I became engrossed in a conversation with the tattoo artist.
A deep conversation about life ensued and we found ourselves on a topic that I am not a stranger to, the power of removing negative influences from your life.
She told me a story…one that will leave you speechless and reflecting on your “closet”.
A woman who was morbidly obese lost over 200lbs without so much as lifting one weight or running one block.
Her doctors were confounded and could not understand how without alterations to diet and exercise she was able to do this.
Her answer was simple and powerful, she told them that she simply removed everyone from her life that was had a negative influence or energy around her. Unbelievably what followed suit was the notable loss of weight.
Perhaps you are sitting there thinking it not possible. Let me tell you from first hand experience that the negative people suck you dry, emotional muggers I call them.
The friends who think that it is ridiculous that you want to go to the gym instead of our to eat.
The family member who calls you up just as you are about to go for a run to complain about their life and guilt you into talking to them instead.
The grandmother who makes you feel like a horrible person for not eating her food.
The colleague who taunts you with stressors all day leaving you exhausted and opting to go home and is in front of the tv with a bag of chips.
Indeed you are the one who lets these people affect you. Victimization doesn’t have a home here at How Does She Do It Mom…so you have to own that responsibility.
However with the awareness of what these people do to your life you have the choice to remain entangled in relationships and allow yourself to be affected by them or to take care of yourself.
My “social circle closet” as I call it has been renovated many times.
As I grew people drifted away from me.
As I evolved I lost intrest in placating to the whims of the “Negative Nancy’s” who were doing nothing but trying to bring me down.
As I became more self-assured I lost patience for the “high-school” bullshit that people would levy at me.
My stress level has decreased.
The word “guilt” no longer exists in my vocabulary of emotions.
The relationships that I chose to maintain are with people who are genuine, authentic and who share positive energy with me.
My life has changed inconceivably because of this.
The woman above had a new lease on life.
Perhaps a renovation is in order in your own closet?
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